Here we are in my favorite time of the year. Just a few short days and Christmas will be here. This is a wonderful time of year to celebrate, reflect, make new memories, and be thankful for all that we have. On the other hand, sometimes we can get so busy with work, family, and friends, that we feel like we are in a whirlwind. The months of November and December are usually the busiest holiday season for most people, and the most stressful.
I have often felt like my husband and I are living in two different worlds. We are both hurrying around, trying to fit everything in during the day. These are the times we have to take the time to reunite as a couple and take a look at what we are trying to accomplish. I just want to take a brief moment to remind you of the possibilities that come with the power of unity and why God placed you together as a couple in the first place.
The Power of Unity
In Ecclesiastes chapter 4, the scripture tells us that “two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up.” You are a team, be united in your goals even if you aren’t always together for every moment and occasion in your life. You need each other. The enemy tries to isolate us and make us feel like we are alone. That isn’t the case. God has put you together to help each other make it through this life. You are together for a reason, focus on that togetherness.
If one of you is having a hard time in an area of life, the other is there to pick you up and help you move forward. Be there for each other. More importantly, pray for each other. We are human, we fail, we hurt, we have emotions and feelings from one end of the spectrum to the other. There is power in prayer yet in our busyness of life it often gets pushed to the back.
Sometimes you are there to help finish all the mundane tasks of daily life. Think how quickly you can make it through your daily to-do list when you are working together. Get that good return for your labor the scripture in Ecclesiastes speaks about. Be unified in your effort don’t leave one person to do everything. The other side of the coin is accepting help and not taking everything on as your own responsibility.
This applies to everything in our lives both big and small. The small tasks are training ground for the big events in your life and relationship. How you handle the little things together gives you practice for when the tough times hit. You may feel those small items and tasks don’t matter in your relationship, but they do. Your relationship is strengthened and unified when you work on life events together. Celebrate your accomplishments and use them as reminders later on when your next hurdle hits. Let’s face it, more hurdles will come, and it is better to face them together.
Jesus as the Center
Verse 12 in Ecclesiastes goes on to say, “though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” Make sure Christ is the third person in your relationship and is at the center of it. If Christ isn’t currently the center of your marriage, you need to stop right where you are and get Him there.
The enemy is after your relationship with each other, and with Christ. Don’t give him an inch because he will take a mile. Don’t let him entangle himself in your marriage because he likes to wreak havoc. Stop the enemy in his tracks, remember a cord of three strands isn’t easily broken. You want a strong cord, one dependent on Christ as the strongest strand. Try as you might you will never make it without Christ personally or as a couple. Put Christ first and keep Him at the center of your marriage.
Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! Again, if two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone? And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken. Ecclesiastes 4:9-12